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Originally Posted by golden_eve
Thank you, OE and Sisabel!
Yes, I am sure they just want to share in our happiness. I can also present a party afterwards with them, which is what we would like to do.
OE, he's met them many times now. They love him.
A letter isn't a bad idea. I am worried I may get upset if they push me. I am not good at confrontation, especially with my own family. But in person is probably best. I am sure they would much rather have me tell them in person.
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Glad to know they have met your fiance and they like him.
I can relate to wanting to avoid confrontation. Often one's own family can be the worst at pushing those confrontational buttons too. You know them best, just do your best to stick to your guns. Explain to your family that you really just want your marriage to be simple and very low key and the way you planned it is really BEST for you and your fiance both financially and stress wise where often "simple" is really the best way to go. Emphasize with your parents that both you and your fiance have decided you really just want things simple and private and intimate rather than trying to make everyone else happy in feeling you both need to do it a certain way to please others.
Use a firm tone with your parents so that they understand your decision is not up for debate. Pay attention to how you talk to them where you might be saying "is it ok if?" where they have a chance to take over the decision and turn things into what they want.