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Originally Posted by Peter86
That's true.
I think one of my biggest concerns is the fact that I was one of the "popular" guys in school when I was still social, and I always feel a pressure to get back to at least that level, because if I couldn't do that despite lots of effort then that would feel kind of rough, and it would definitely make me feel a kind of unpleasant melancholic nostalgia as well.
But then again, junior high school at the age 13-16 is a lot different from university, especially when I don't have that "social flow" from childhood with me in the same way.
I guess I could start with simply getting used to being around people to begin with, and "worry" about making a good impression around them later.
Also I do typically notice positive response from people when I feel reasonably comfortable with myself, so that's good as well.
I also like to think that the fact that I used to be really outgoing should give me an advantage - I have this intuitive feel that I have my former social personality within me somewhere, and it seems to show itself in situations that are "comfortable enough".
One of the security guards at my school actually got concerned about me when he saw me about half a year ago since he thought I looked concerned and uneasy, and he even asked me if I was using drugs (wtf?) since I appeared to be stressed out (I felt uncomfortable when he detained me like that and asked questions), but then a few weeks later he met me again when I felt more relaxed and positive, and he was blown away by the difference and looked genuinely shocked.
So yeah, that's cool I guess.  |
I think when you’re comfortable in yourself it really helps so definitely agree with that and feeling relaxed and positive will help how you’re coming across to others. The less you worry the easier it and more natural it is.
I know what you mean. I used to have a more outgoing personality and I had a good sense of humour, but I feel I’ve got so much more serious and I want my old personality back so much. It’s there with certain people but with others I hide it because I’m not sure how accepted I would be! If that makes sense. It is frustrating when you feel you’ve changed and you don’t like the new you as much as the old you :/
I think that’s a good idea. Maybe as well being around people and focusing on really listening to what they’re saying. Rather than being inward and thinking about how you’re coming across.