Thank you so much everyone! I really appreciate your words of advice and encouragement. Your stories help.. the advice and support helps too!

And Tisha, that's the exact answer my parents would give me -- this thread is titled guilt from family, and you're almost doing the same thing to me. I always appreciate your responses, but that's the exact kind of answer that will guilt me into paying $8000-$10000 on a wedding and honeymoon I cannot even afford. This comes down to money. I cannot afford to pay for both a wedding and a honeymoon. We have to elope. I am not paying for a flight, hotel, car and ceremony JUST to please my parents and keep THEM happy. It's not what I want to do. The way I feel is this is my wedding and MY day -- they will just need to get over it. I certainly don't want to hurt them, but this is the way it has to be.