A few more points that she contends.

A. I’m “asking her to allow my EW into her life” when I ask her to join in on the joint celebrations. And that me asking is f’d up.

B. My kids love my cooking. And they’ll often ask me to cook for them particular dishes. I live in a small apartment. So I will often go to my EW house and cook for everyone. Including the EW and many of our mutual friends. Just like we do for joint holidays etc....

C. She has not stated “I don’t like EW and I don’t want her in my house”. Which means if we share a house she’s not welcome. That’s bs IMO. And extremely childish.