I donīt see this is wrong nor right as I see you should follow your heart in this but also be aware about why you want to give your T a gift. I would also find it wise to think about or to write down how you think youīll react to probable scenarios like the therapist not accepting your gift. I would also contemplate about how such a gift giving will affect your sessions with her.
Iīm myself very wary about things like those as I know the potential hurt in all this. But that of course depends on how you are as a person, some would perhaps just accept the therapist not accepting a gift if that happened.
I had thoughts about giving my T a gift before summer, also something simple like a nice box of tea bags or similar but I didnīt. To me the crucial part in deciding whether go give my T a gift or not was the realisation that giving a gift would be much more important to me than it would be for her to receiving a gift from me.
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Originally Posted by imnotbroken
I know I'm a bit early, but I was thinking of the Holidays approaching in a little over a month, and how it is a time of gift-giving to those you care for.
When it comes to T, what is your view on gift-giving? Is it a boundary crossing, since the therapeutic relationship is not the same as one has with friends/family members? I've been thinking about this topic.
I'm not sure yet, but I'm thinking of getting my T something simple, not anything extravagant and expensive, like, I don't know, a box of cookies/chocolate along with a card thanking her for being there for the past 2 years? But also I'm thinking she might not accept it and then it would be awkward.
Have you ever given something like this to your T? How did they respond? Really need some advice. Good idea or bad idea?
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