Hello lookingup: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral. One additional forum, here on PC, that may be of particular interest would be the coping with emotions forum. Here's a link:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/coping-with-emotions/

And then here are links to 6 articles, from PsychCentral's archives; 5 on the subject of healing from heartbreak plus one (by our host Dr. John Grohol, Psy.D.) on letting go of past hurts:

Help on Healing from Heartbreak

10 Tips to Mend a Broken Heart

Love, Heartbreak & How to Recover | The Psychology of Success

Coping with the End of a Relationship

https://psychcentral.com/blog/growth...dium=popular17

https://psychcentral.com/blog/learni...ys-to-move-on/

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.