Oh how horrible. The childhood experience really hits home.

While I grew up with my own mother bullying me and telling me I was never good enough, my own sibling was constantly praised and even glorified. While I was constantly being punished and repremanded for things usually his fault he could do no wrong and received constant praise, attention, and reward. When I did make my own mistakes, my mother went off the deep end and punishment was harsh and at times physical. "Why can't you be...." was a phrase I heard often.

I was small and dorky while my brother incredibly popular. This was an additional sore point for my mother as she took my unpopularity and nerdiness personally. She found it humiliating and a such become the biggest of my many bullies. Apparently it was embarrassing for her to have such a geek for a daughter. I heard a lot of "What must people think...."

I have a great deal of problems now that I am adult. It is a contributor to my PTSD and has resulted in my incredibly high anxiety problems. I have a very poor self image and sense of worth.

Meanwhile, the woman created a narcissist of my brother. He has also replaced her since her passing as my bully.

My own mother was the poster child for how not to raise your children.