I hear there are lots of people living on Long Island ;-)
Still, guess it is possible that you know him. You know, I don't know how old my therapist is. I do wonder, but don't imagine I'll ever ask him. He could be anywhere from 36 to 44 I really have no idea. Am hopeless at assessing these things... If I had to guess... Maybe 39. But I really don't know.

I think the seperation helped because I find it easier talking to someone who feels more like a stranger than someone who has a presence that stands out as a person in their own right (if that makes sense). I guess we are fairly well matched too, now, so he knows the kinds of background things to say to keep me rolling along and to help guide me to seeing different things. And his repeating things kinda helped because I was talking around the issue a little and he was able to repeat them in a on the ball kinda way...

I'm afraid to ask my t questions, too. Partly because I'm afraid of the answer. Some things... Can change things significantly. I remember not being happy at all when he told me that his wife was going to have a baby. That was two big wowzas in one go. Firstly: he has a wife. Secondly: he is going to have a newborn baby. I would have preferred not to have known that. But I guess I'm used to that now... Second thing was finding out about his attending a church on the net (damn you why can't you be an atheist just like me?????).

I thought about buying him a copy of Dawkin's 'the god delusion' for x-mas but figured that would probably just be either preaching to the choir or antagonising people who weren't initially sympathetic...

Maybe the bad *** risk...

Is about

1) The inevitable 'why do you want to know and what would x and y and z answer mean to you.

2) Receiving an answer that you (potentially) don't want to hear?

But then there is something compelling...

I wonder when my t moved to Aussie. I wonder if it was about getting into Medical School or if it was unrelated (training as a doc in Aussie would have cut off his chances of practicing in the US). Not sure how I can ask this in a sensitive way... Maybe I could find the couragae to ask his age... Now, that would help me with google ;-) Though you would think that I could find where he trained via google... Am I kinda bad *** in my own whimpy way?????