Sounds like she needs some education herself on what depression is and is not. And...functionality has nothing to do with it!

I have worn many hats, most were prediagnoses. I was a wife then a single mother of two (albeit my kids barely survived that bit), microbiology research analyst in the Army for more than twelve years then worked in various labs for years after that...again undiagnosed. Since retiring from the medical field, I’ve been a successful fiction writer with numerous stand alone novels and series in various sub genres...all while unknowingly flobbing my way dealing with bipolar 1, anxiety, numerous phobias, and...the latest added moniker of high functioning autism...I promise you, it was NOT what most would call functional...but, I have one very important talent many don’t seem to possess. I can don a mask of normalcy at the drop of a hat. Don’t scratch the surface too deep and you would never suspect there was anything out of sorts with me. I can’t hold it for more than a day or so without needing to decompress for a few hours but I doubt I could do that any more. I’m out of practice. Since I made up my mind to seek professional help, I’ve been encouraged to just be what and who I am and it has helped me tremendously. It’s the main reason I stay with this psychologist. She knew the mask I wore was a big part of my problem.

Release What No Longer Serves You

Best advice I ever got.

So...what does that have to do with you? Could it be that you are trying to seem more “together” than you are? I get it. Who wants to admit to weakness? No one I know, that’s for sure. But, if we truly want help and know we can’t do it alone, we have to let go the reins. There’s a horse racing term, “letting her/him have his/her head”. It’s when the jockey eases off the reins completely and just lets the horse run as fast as she can till she wants to slow down herself. It’s something we all need to do. We need to be free to be who we are even when we think we might be broken and need help. You can’t fix something you don’t allow anyone to see.

Hope that helps