Hello everyone,

I am currently engaged to a 27 year old, I have been with him for well over a year. I have caught him out in numerous lies, for example, he's gone to meet his "boss" at the gas station to recieve his pay, then mysteriously lost his wallet containing that "pay". I was extremely depressed and nearly tried to overdose on tramadol, he lied for 3 days straight pretending to be driving down to my area (we live 1400 km apart), pretended to be staying by his uncle, pretended to be at a job he never even had or applied for. He admitted it only AFTER I threatened to leave. He told me he was scared he would lose me so he lied. He's lied to my parents faces, multiple times. He sits at home all day, plays games, doesn't look for work, nothing. Now bare in mind, I earn barely enough per month to support TWO of us. I'm the only one working, and he lives off of my money in my flat. I have to pay for rent, groceries, toiletries, everything. Everytime I mention the fact that I need help, he needs a job, he throws an emotional sob story and tries to guilt trip me. I should also probably mention, He talks about me behind my back to his family, telling them I am "using" him and emotionally abusing him, that I am not caring for him like I should be, I have seen the messages on his phone where his mother blatantly insults me and he agrees with her. I have recieved very rude messages on facebook from his brother about it too. Bare in mind, he's saying it's emotional abuse because I get angry and sometimes yell when he sits using all my stuff, and does NO help. I don't "care" for him like I should be, yet i'm letting him live here rent free, paying all his expenses, and I'm at the point where I just can't anymore. Emotionally and mentally. I don't want to be alone, because I suffered through severe depression and have and I'm still under watch by my family. I need help What should I do. Is it my fault that he's lying so much? I don't know what I could've done wrong.