I couldnt handle rules at 17 and got kicked out. It suited me quite nicely to have the freedom.

I think telling a grown woman what she can and can not do is absurd. However it those are the terms and conditions of living there, I guess you have to weigh your options.

I'm assuming there is a reason you live there. Not being able to do sleepovers is also going to really hamper your dating life (in my opinion). I cant tell you what to do because my advice would be terrible. I am defiant by nature. However your frustrations are legitimate and I believe the only person who truly knows what's best is yourself.