Quote:
Originally Posted by ennie
I no longer help the person whom I used to, because of too many "bite the hand that feeds you" episodes.
But as a human being, I try to show basic consideration towards everyone, even if I can't go out of my way to help someone.
For example, I recently bumped into this person inside a building as she was lost trying to find her way to a function. I tried to help her out and informed her where it is. She disagreed with me suggesting that I don't know what I am talking about, and then I overheard her mocking me as she walked away.
Although I no longer do favors for her, when I see someone in need right in front of me, the natural thing to do is to look out for that person. Even a stranger helps you when you are lost.
But with this person any and every little kindness I show her, she uses that as an opportunity to bring me down. So would it be inconsiderate or inhuman of me to show her absolutely no kindness that I would normally show another human being and pretend like she doesn't exist?
|
I am also a fixer. I worked with a person who is/was just like that. One year I bought everyone in the emergency room that I worked in, a Christmas ornament, wrapped all of them, and gave them out. This person returned it to me unopened. This person always was hard to deal with, so I finally stopped letting this person get under my skin. It didn't change how this person acted around me, but it did help me to not worry so much about that person accepting me. I try to remember it isn't me that was the problem, it was the other person.
