(((LT))) My parents were always encouraging me to quit stuff - but i think it was stuff that affected them, like if i talked to them about it. If they didnt know about it, i just went ahead and did it. Like i just went ahead and did my homework by myself all thru school, because the "prime directive" had been just to do whatever the nuns and teachers tell you to do. Once i started talking to them, like about boys and friends and life, thats when i got into trouble. They had no good advice. This "fixed vs growth" is very good for me to hang onto right now. Hey its never too late!