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Old Nov 15, 2018, 03:00 PM
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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty View Post
(((LT))) and (((unaluna))) I think for me, my parents were so adamant that I didn't quit anything that I've stayed at jobs far longer than was healthy for me, etc. My parents were of the mindset that once you start, you never quit, even when there's good reasons to. I took piano as a child and have no aptitude for it, but my parents made me stick with it for 10 years even though I wasn't progressing much as a student, and I didn't enjoy it. I wasn't getting anything out of it, but there's a stick-to-it-ness in my family that can be overdone. I think it's good sometimes to know that just because something is begun doesn't mean it has to be completed. I guess my parents were just on the extreme end. Never quit. Be better. An A isn't enough. Why didn't you get an A+? They just wanted what was best for me, but didn't allow my input into what was best for me. Sigh. Kit

Hugs, Kit. That doesn't seem healthy either, to make you stick with something for that long that you dislike. Mine didn't push for that but were similar in the "Oh, you only got an A-, why not an A+?" mindset. Focusing on what I didn't do vs. what I did. It's no wonder I'm a perfectionist...and always worry about letting authority figures down...
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