I didn't NEED to. I wanted to. I knew she was saying things that indicated the insecurities which she denies heavily.

Great points? No. Am I willing to observe potential compromises? yes.

One other piece that was major for me. She has a tendency to talk AT me, not to me. She will say things like "the relationship you have with your EW is inappropriate" instead of "the relationship you have with EW makes me uncomfortable, could we talk about it?" Yeah, I know, arguing semantics, but no one likes to be talked AT. And that is certainly not proper communication.