I don't know how to get H to understand how my doing so little around the house in his eyes is pretty much my max or nearly so. I know I don't do a lot of housework. I find it hard to do most everything. Though apparently, I don't have much problems with hypergraphia...

All day, I have thoughts pulling me a thousand directions; it's a minor miracle I can keep up with laundry, trash, and the cats, not to mention taking my daughter to & from school on time.

When H gets upset with me, he will often point out how little I have to do and/or worry about compared to him. I know this. My "a lot" is his "day of leisure". He points to my luxury of being able to try to nap if I want to (sometimes I manage & sometimes not), but it's often not even a matter of want to but need to. If I'm on less than about 6 hours of sleep a night, things start spiralling down. H can function all week on 5 hours of sleep and just a little catch up over the weekend though he is tired and often wants (and does need) more sleep. But lack of sleep doesn't drive him into mania.
I start sleeping less & less and then mania is right on my doorstep, and it's too late.

Sometimes, H will start on a litany of all the things he does in his day versus what I do, and I know his day is not easy, and it guilts me so much, makes me feel I do so little, I'm the least important person in the house, probably even less important than our cats I just can't get him to realize getting out of bed, showering, and dressing is already an accomplishment for me. Even wearing different clothes than my usual 2 outfits in rotation for the season is hard for me to find & put together. How doing little things is not easy when you have bipolar and panic disorder and constant voices/worries/urges from an eating disorder that you try to ignore though you may or may not succeed in ignoring them. The ED thoughts, even if I don't act on them, are all barbs to my self-esteem, which I don't know if much of that even exists any more between the BP and ED.

Some days, it's just hard.