Have you considered couples or family therapy? Just a thought since you have expressed your family is under a lot of stress. Maybe it could help with communication and understanding? I

Also I am similar in that my thoughts can pull me in a thousand directions and I can get overwhelmed and be exhausted with nothing done. Do you have a routine and schedule? This helps me a lot personally. I can get way more done while expending the same amount of energy, because I will drain my energy daydreaming, ruminating etc. Certainly not recommending you do more than you can handle, just a thought for what works for me. You could write down a couple of short tasks at set times for example.