You are certainly an avid communicator Hypatia,,I enjoyed and understood your prose on the problem.

Interesting,,your statistical reference to the world of feelings...but your right that it does seem odd that someone like you is still "hands free".

I like to fish. If I'm fishing in a stream or pond for a few hours and I don't even get a bite, I can begin to rationalize my experience)lack of luck) by thinking that "I'm outside relaxing,,having a good time being with nature"...That's all well and good but I came to fish and do a little catching...LOL

So,,,,I change ponds...or I eat hamburgers that night.

Try a new place, perspective or social grouping like a church or club or volunteer effort. Sometimes all it takes is a little kick to the process of destiny for "things" to sort out a little differently...

You sound like a wonderfull person who simply has not turned the rght corner...

Lenny