I only see male therapists anymore. Just never had any luck with female therapists. I'm sure there are many great ones out there; unfortunately, I kept getting hold of inexperienced and really odd ones.

For me, it really was a matter of personality when it came to why the male therapists worked for me. I don't like to be coddled or treated as fragile, and that was what I was getting from female therapists. Too much over-sharing as a way to somehow tell me they "understood;" it just turned me off.

Male therapists, for me, were direct, supportive without being "mushy", strong without being intimidating. I was very comfortable talking to them about even the most sensitive topics, including sex. I found them good listeners and staunch advocates.

All that said, again, if I had found those qualities in a female therapist it would have been great. Just didn't happen, and I stopped bothering to waste more time and money after several failures.