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Everything everyone else has said!

- You need him to get responsible. He won't.
- You need him to help support the two of you financially. He won't.
- He's gaslighting you. Run like Hades!
- He's making you "responsible" for his poor widdle feelings all the time and spreading falsehoods and just plain shyte about you behind your back (hence, gaslighting). Run like the devil were chasing you!
- Do you seriously want to live in his unreal version of "reality", in which someone else (mostly you) is always ALWAYS the abusive bad guy? Seriously?

My own beloved brother was an expert at this for many many years. It was, is, and ever will be, horrific. He is now married for the seventh time. Nobody can fix him. Gee -- wonder why?


I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this. It can be so overwhelming and self-belittling. Please please don't fall for it, for your own sake.

Very very best to you. You have the strength.

sending you strength and "I am a good person. I am a whole intelligent individual. I AM ENOUGH!" vibes

Please feel free to PM me. I am so sorry for your pain.

Chyia, shutting up now :shuddering: