I have told my h that depression is like trying to walk around with weighted boots on ones feet and one of those plastic grocery sacks on yr head. Yr h sounds very impatient so, in a jokey way you could ask him to actually try walking around like that , attempting to do household tasks. I don’t know how you would simulate pain, but a timer going off constantly as a distraction might simulate adhd and hypomania.
My h and 40 yr old son especially so don’t get this. My h has serious medical probs. I handle his docs so this pisses me off even more. I’ve even saved his life more than once. In fact I make the major decisions and do the long term planning. Yes, I can be hard to live with w my drama, but my ideas on real estate investing for our residences have paid off well. My son nonetheless loses it w me, won’t even tell me what irritates him. Very passive aggressive.
My h is basically a very kind man, and is finally after 40 yrs at least listening when I try to explain the bipolar 2 w mixed episodes and ultra rapid cycling.
I’ve had a tough yr w deaths in the family, so I get very distracted sometimes also and sometimes have confusion I can totally relate.
I think it really helped when I had my friend w a bp son meet h and she is willing to meet son.When they know someone they have to face knows how they treat you it can help. If u could find a support group you like maybe someone could be an influence on him.
Crockpot and pressure cooker meals do not taste the same. Shape up buddy or you’re going to have to answer to me, LOL. That ought to strike fear in his heart, LOL! Love ya, Blueberrybook!