I have a male therapist. I find him to be kind, caring and empathetic. I feel safe around him. It might be a little harder to bring up sexual topics and "woman stuff" but he makes me feel at ease to do so. I've met with female therapists in a group, as a backup for my therapist while he was on vacation, and at an intake at a DBT place. I didn't click with any of them the way I have with my therapist. As others have said, it's more about the person than the gender.