Wow....I had kinda the opposite problem only self inflicted. Being an only child & growing up not wanting to be anything like my parents while having no role models to observe.....I fought hard to be better than my parents & to succeede in my education because in my young mind it sermed to me that it was their lack of educatikn that causes them to be the way they were so if I excelled then it woukd guarantee I would NOT be like them.

So a few years ago I actually have been able to look back (they have been dead for decades now) & really see the psycholigical issues that were the cause not just lack of education. It has been enlightening to finally grasp the level of anxiety I never even recognized I was experiencing all those years now that I no longer have the people in my life that I was fighting so hard against. Unfortunately that were incapable of knowing what they were doing to cause what was going on inside of me.

I was everything I wanted my mom to be for my daughter & I can assure you.....that was NOT the answer either as it created a ton of "how not to raise your kid" issues too.