Reading your follow up responses to this thread, I gotta say it doesn't sound unlike my family and how I was brought up. I won't say it was just me, but I can totally relate to the "your feelings are not right" kind of thing. My way though has been being out of communication with my family for nearly 20 yrs. I just walked away, and I know most, would not or could never do that but it was all I could do and I grew a lot from being distanced from them.

After all these years, when I finally tried to connect with my mother - the one I have the least reasons to hold anything against, my sister whom my ex is in touch with from time to time, refused to give her number, contending that "no he's caused mama too much pain" 20 yrs. I hope it gets better for you, but as for me, I have my kids, and hell, even my ex is more "family" than my blood relatives.

anyway, I so relate to this type of toxicity. *hugs*