I like feedback a lot, both giving and receiving. It can provide much-needed reality checks to everyone, or at least another perspective. I know that in some modalities of therapy feedback is kinda discouraged or at least not encouraged directly for what they sometimes put as not focusing on opinions and judgment - I personally don't like those approaches and don't think any T has a good reason not to take feedback from their clients. I gave my Ts plenty. One handled it generally very well and with a great deal of reflection/responsibility. The other one often handled negative feedback very poorly - actually more poorly than most people I have dealt with in my life. It was important to recognize that his ineffective and blame-shifting ways of dealing with my feedback was a strong general trend in his behavior and not in mine. So it did not stop me. I really don't think clients need to worry about giving Ts feedback whenever we feel like it. I like to remain civil and polite as much as reasonable but quite direct. Same in everyday life. I think it really helps to create and maintain healthy relationships and to meet our personal goals.
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