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Old Nov 16, 2018, 05:37 PM
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Originally Posted by 502041 View Post
I had a bit of a weird session the other day where my T delicately pushed me more then they have done before. I have been seeing them for about 3.5 years now.


I struggle with opening up and really looking at things in session. I contemplate all day long outside of session but in session its difficult. So they started the session with this and looking at the part that didn't want to help. This part scurried away and I retreated big time.

Anyway another thing they asked/said to me was they needed me to engage and let them know what was working. I know I don't give any affirmation about what and what isn't helpful and often get annoyed at them for doing things well e.g. telling me to look after after myself like eating properly or affirming the way i am acting is adult and when its not etc. They are met with indifference, sometimes annoyance and at best dismissal or completely overlooking/ignoring what was said/done. I basically leave them no indication as to whether they are helping me and only imagine this leave them stuck and maybe exhausted.

I am just getting to the point of exploring with them not being able to talk and open up fully and atm talking to them about what i need or what they do for me and how i fnd therapy helpful isn't really an option.
I just wanted to get insight into other experiences of giving their therapist feedback telling them how they are finding it.
I read never great at giving T feedback I would just go with the flow. The couple of times I did she was great about it. I think for the first few years I didnt know any better... then we had a groove and so didnt feel the need to say much.

With Emdr I have offered feedback a few times and she is always appreciative and we discuss it and come to an agreement. I have told her when she disnt know critical information that I felt she should and that it bothered me. I have told her when I am not comfortable doing things.
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Thanks for this!
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