I would probably buy a plane ticket back to the UK & tell him as you are leaving that IF he chooses to ever get his life back together he can contact you then.....I would just get divorced as my final statement & see what happens from there. I stayed way too long with the guy I married & all his crap.....I would never recommend it. What you see is what you got.....it has to be on him to prove any change before considering to ever come back.

After the bad experience I had.....I have no tolerance for things like that because they are just all the red flags I saw & brushed off before & right after I got married......would not ever do a repeat of that.