I’d go home. And file for divorce. If he was this way when you lived apart, it was obvious he’d be this way when you move together.

Keep in mind that typically/usually in the US if you work and he doesn’t, after 10 years of marriage you’d pay him spousal support. A lot. And for many years. So end it now.

My daughter recently moved in with the guy who seemed good when they dated, as soon as they moved in he turned out to be a terrible evil jerk. She immediately packed her cat and herself and ended it and moved out (maybe lived with him two months maximum). She was out like a light. Within few weeks she had new place, new great job and now is dating. So glad she didn’t marry that awful guy.

Buy a ticket and go home. Or if you’d like stay in the US, but don’t live with this man another day. No one needs husband like that