Sort of similar here. What mine said was that he usually "makes clients wait and doesn't reply right away if at all, but he was always replying right away to me" and I thought OMG, what the hell is wrong with me? LOL

Then I realized, HIS feelings for me, were colliding with my feelings, it made things really tough for us with emails. He's fully admitted about how he reacted differently with emailing me than other clients. Lots of details I don't wanna share publicly.

Anyway.... I realized it wasn't that anything was wrong with me, it was that he wanted to reply as much as I wanted to have him reply. It lead to a many misunderstandings and a huge rupture that almost ended everything for us.

Thankfully we are good now, in a way, I think I feel closer to him. Maybe it's the secure feeling of the relationship I now have. Yes, like you, I kinda figured it was a thing all therapists did. I had many misconceptions about therapy.

Out of curiosity... since we seem to be similar in how we handle things and feel about therapy (like wanting to be independent and not depend on our T) do you know your attachment style?