I had a similar experience. I went to see a possible new therapist and told them my dysfunctional life story. He said that he could not help me because, despite my past, I was not a sex addict, drug addict or alcoholic. I was stunned because I had no friends, was not interested in a love live and was depressed to just name a few of my issues.

The therapist was also turned off by me because I had previously had other therapists and had tried different types of therapy but had not made any progress.

Many years later, I am still haunted by being turned down for those reasons and just thinking about it makes me more depressed and feel more hopeless. I have concluded that therapists who say such things are not good therapists because they are not aware of the further damage their statement has made.