My T always did the "How old do you think I am" quessing game thing instead of answering questions. But she was the one that tried to get me to talk about wanting to go live with her and almost taunting in the "everybody has that fantasy, it's very common".

It took until a long time in therapy before we addressed the fear of asking questions because they won't get answered thing versus the asking personal questions and it's not about T but about me.

I think it's kind of like "silence" and T's not a whole lot more sure when they're supposed to break it than we are sure about when and what questions it's okay to ask and their knowing when to answer and when to stonewall, LOL.