I use to email T a lot. When something happened that was emotionally painful my first reaction was to reach out to T. In the beginning she answered very quickly. Then she on her words "got a life" so it could be a couple of days before she responded. I was stuck between the logical part of brain that was happy she had a life and was enjoying herself rather than working all the time and the emotional part of feeli ng abandoned and alone.

EMDR T doesnt do email but I can rect her if needed. Rather than texting back she typically will call. For me texting and calling is more intrusive plus I know she has a husband and toddler (until T got a life of was just her and an adult son who lives out of state). So I limit it to when things are major.

I find it empowering most days because I am learning to deal with my emotions better on my own. It sucks some days because I feel alone....