It wasn’t first date technically but first time they met. I am pretty sure it’s the same man although I hope I might be wrong and hopefully it’s a different guy. Yes getting away from him and move out is a number one priority right now.

I also wonder... in order for people to bring foreign spouses in the US they have to show proof that they can support them until green card comes in and even after if things go wrong, they are obligated to support the spouse (not saying they have to support them forever but it’s pretty much promise to the US government that the new spouse won’t ask for state assistance”. People have to show their income. This guy couldn’t possibly obtain such proof if he does not work and has no place to live. How was he able to invite his wife for permanent residence in the US?