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Originally Posted by KnitChick
Yes, about commitments, that is an accurate observation I guess.  This may sound weird, I don't know, but I think I need to do more of what I want to do, and less of what I'd like to do / sounds good, but ultimately when the time comes, I don't want to do it. I do think less commitments is a good idea. And thank you for putting this the way you did. I know it's a delicate subject for me. And I know that you know that too. Lol. I think just the way I developed, and the way I'm made, I have to want to do it. If that makes sense. I can see myself having like...ONE commitment. Lol. Is anyone else like that I wonder? I have thought before that maybe I'm a selfish person because of that. I'd like to hope not. Because I definitely care about others. I just have my own needs and makeup. |
No, it's not selfish whatsoever to think this way. I think it's easy for many people to feel like we SHOULD be doing X,Y or Z. So we do X,Y or Z to feel like we're doing a good deed for ourselves, but in the end, we're doing ourselves no favors because it's not what we really want. So why bother, right?
Do only what you really want to do, not what you feel you
should be doing, and you will be just fine.
As for the guy, glad you feel better & right on. A sex starved man who won't push you? GOOD. At least he's not needy about it.
