I actually would have preferred stopping the emailing all at once, "cold turkey", when it clearly became excessive/compulsive. But this may be because my issue with it was more addiction-like and not really about attachment, unfulfilled childhood needs etc. I also could never taper my drug of choice, just kept relapsing for way too long. That was the case with emaling as well - cutting down did not really work to resolve it completely, stopping completely did. I am just saying this to highlight that there can be different reasons for a client to have issues around outside contact - it does seem, at least on this forum, that the majority is related to attachment (styles) but it is not always the case. I am definitely not anxious/fearful about relationships (I am anxious about other type of things). A bit dismissive but mostly secure in relationships, especially when the other person is that way as well. Still, this happened to me, because I developed that bad habit and it was very hard to quit for good, just like with drinking. The person I communicated with virtually also did not matter too much as long as they were sufficiently interesting - I kept trading them for years so wasn't attached to the people really but to my own escaping/distracting tendencies and habit. Of course it often confused the heck out of people, including Ts, because I believe interpersonal attachment and associated fears are more common than addiction in general and it may not be easy to tell them apart without knowing someone really well.