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Originally Posted by Merope
I think the issue is me and how I look for problems where there are none. I will have to bring it up with him again because my abandonment fears nowadays seem to be triggered by someone not breathing loud enough ffs. I'm not sure what type of attachment style I have, but there are definitely elements of insecurity (or perhaps I crossed the border into paranoia by now). I'm just really, really, really scared of losing his support and his continued presence at a time when everything else seems to be going t*ts up.
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I identify with this! I have an anxious attachment style and being "perpetually vigilant" or "looking for problems where there are none" is a factor. Always expecting people to abandon you and sometimes creating situations for that to happen so it can be on your terms. I really suggest you do some reading on it and talk to your therapist about that in particular.
I'm not sure anything can be done about it. At least in my experience knowing what it is hasn't actually prevented me from feeling or doing those things, but at least when I come back around to talk about it I have a semi-accurate idea of what happened.
It seems good that your therapist is real with you though. Hopefully it means he will be real with you about other things too.