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Originally Posted by Merope
I think the issue is me and how I look for problems where there are none. I will have to bring it up with him again because my abandonment fears nowadays seem to be triggered by someone not breathing loud enough ffs. I'm not sure what type of attachment style I have, but there are definitely elements of insecurity (or perhaps I crossed the border into paranoia by now). I'm just really, really, really scared of losing his support and his continued presence at a time when everything else seems to be going t*ts up.
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I don't have abandonment fears and much anxiety about relationships but do have "I look for problems where there are none" in other areas (mostly practical life management for me). I can worry the *** out of myself one day and totally see things with clarity and realism on the other day. I think it is anxiety, it can manifest in many different forms/areas depending on our individual backgrounds. I do find it helpful when I get external reality checks and feedback that I am exaggerating things in my head, so perhaps this is what the T can also do?