((((((((Colleen)))))))))
You're not a bad mom. In fact, I know you would have been a great mom. The best. And whether its been 8 years or 8 weeks, the pain is still real, and its ok that you're feeling this... you "shouldn't" feel anything just because a certain amount of time has passed.
I can only imagine how you're feeling, but I want you to know you don't have to be alone in how you're feeling. I'm glad you have your work to help you get through the day, and you have us here to help you get through the night. Now's the time to lean on those that you trust and care about.
Sending you lots of love and hugs
me