First weigh the severity of what he lied about, you did not say what it was that he lied about. When lies are related to another woman in a guys life then I would have to say that is a touchy area. By making it clear that if he lies again your "out of here" is good. . . right to the point! I won't go into details but 2 yrs ago my husband pulled a cutie with his female co-worker which caused me almost 2 yrs. of psychiatrist visits, therapy, and medications some how we got thru it I still get setbacks but not too bad. Deep down inside I feel untrusting of him but I no longer obsess over it, plus I told him if ever again he can expect a divorce and I'll take it to the max!! Being married for almost 24 yrs. and knowing each other for 31 yrs. I do not think either one of us is going to leave, if the future has different plans for us then we will just have to deal with it. Bottom line do not let anyone take advantage of you and take a relationship slow give each other space at times, relax if the lie was really no big deal let it go, but just state your piece. Let us know how things work out. Take care,
"darkeyes"