Over the past 6 months I have been involved in a casual relationship with a man who is very open about his mental health issues, major depression and ADHD, childhood trauma from family (in particular his mother whom he loaths), church sexual abuse, past substance abuse (15 years sober) and avoidance attachment issues. He is also very open about his sexual preference for rough sex and a leaning towards dominance bondage scenarios. We also share that both of our previous long term relationships did not end well and have left us both wary (I too have a young daughter, and want things in her life to remain stable).
Despite all the negatives I am very attracted to him, sexually and emotionally and feel excited when we meet up, being middle aged and feeling cynical and numb from my previous marriage.
The relationship has been purely sexual and I am more than happy with this but of late he has cooled towards me, saying he is depressed and needs to isolate, not sleeping and after much study having difficulty finding a job in his new career, especially one he could tolerate.
I guess I am asking what should my stance be with this man, I have a busy life and do not really want a complete relationship but while sex is great I am having feelings that I would like to become more intimate and maybe share some time outside of the bedroom too. My instinct is to have a wait see approach and to be blandly supportive of him emotionally. Any thoughts?