Hi
Phelps here. New member, first post.

I'm here for a reason. I'm at a bit of a loss right now as I'm looking for some suggestions about how to proceed with a problem I have.
I posted to "ask the Therapist" a couple weeks ago but not received a response so I'm figuring my problem isn't the right "kind" of problem.

It is to me though.

There's a lot to this problem, most of which I won't bore you with here but it seems my wife of 20+years (4 children) has developed an obsession with a certain celebrity.
Now I'm not a "celebrity watcher" myself so I don't know whether my wife's obsession is "normal" or even an real "obsession" at all.

If needed, I can provide details about her actions to give clarity to the degree of her infatuation.

It's probably important though that you know this is a "secret" obsession of hers. She never speaks about this celebrity in the house and has no idea that I know about it, or that I'm asking for help on this.

My wife's obsession first came to my attention though my eldest daughter who made an offhand comment to me in the car one day. Following this, there were a few other cues in quick succession that piqued my curiosity as well. When I started digging...it became obvious quite quickly. I began to see many past events, purchases and conversations in a very different light.

My two questions are:
1) Has anyone else out there had a spouse with a serious and secret celebrity obsession? What did you do? How did it turn out?

2- Do I approach m,y wife with this issue or is it something I let run it's course? (If I do approach her it may be very embarrassing for her and could break a lot of trust between us)