golden_eve:

Your first paragraph is pretty much what I was thinking. I tend to think that the two people are simply not compatible. Personally, I would not want to deal with a partner's ex and kids, so I never got involved with someone who had kids when I was dating. I recognized that it would reduce the dating pool, but it was a dealbreaker for me.


She either needs to accept that your ex and kids will be part of your life and that you and your ex are making the children a priority (as it should be), or look for someone else that doesn't have kids. And, the OP will probably be better off with someone that is prepared to accept the situation and work to relate with the children and the ex.

I have a friend that married a guy with three kids by several different women and another on the way. They are divorcing in large part because she couldn't deal with the kids and exes.