That sounds hard, especially with your husband away. If you get to having a connection with your T, that will leave you vulnerable to missing your husband more I'd think.

I think I "made friends" with the office we met in before I did with T. I noticed objects and worked with looking for things within the room that felt safe and consistent. It wasn't even my T's room, we borrowed it from another T so they weren't my T's things but noticing the "routine" and changes in things, if any, helped me have a sense of continuity and like I was part of it.