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Old Nov 19, 2018, 05:45 PM
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Originally Posted by TishaBuv View Post
My sister just texted asking if I have plans for Thanksgiving. I replied our plans and asked hers. She texted back something about putting plenty of bourbon in the sweet potatoes, lol. So she did finally reach out to me and is trying to keep it simple.

She told me to never speak of the argument again. So I just have to contend with this feeling of being blamed for something that wasn’t fully my fault. It was her daughter who started it, took it to another level, twisted it and told my sister an ‘alternate truth’ version which biased her against me. So I just have to let that go. I’m fine with my niece now. Never really had a relationship with her anyway.

It’s my sister I’m so hurt by. She judged me harshly, took nasty jabs at me about things I confided in her about, and the worst hurt of all— said I’m just like our mother!
And what’s with ‘I’m done with this whole F’n family!’?

My other sister refused to give me one ounce of compassion. Last i spoke to her, she was getting an oil change and couldn’t talk to me when I poured my heart out!

My mom (the puppet master) and dad ended off in mom calling me names, twisting her web of lies, and dad supposedly validating her lies but refusing to talk to me about it.

Yes, it’s a really toxic family and I am beaten. There’s no arguing with crazy. I couldn’t defend myself, get them to see my POV, or get one ounce of compassion, even when asking for compassion!

Should I continue polite recipe text?
I would tell your sister don't ever contact you again until she admitted that her daughter is lying just to start a fight until your niece and sister to finally agree to an apologize and your niece and sister agreed to get some professional help they aren't allowed to be in contact with you anymore. I would block your niece from all contact and file a restraining order against her and start playing head games with her. Make It sound like she did this to herself and then pull her to the side and ask her to prove it. It sound like your niece is a very controlling person. I have a niece like that.

Last edited by Buffy01; Nov 19, 2018 at 08:24 PM. Reason: Misspell a word