Yeah. I think I remember hearing somewhere that it was okay to ask - so long if you could accept 'no' as the answer. My t self-discloses a little too much for my tastes... But then I think that it was mostly around his trying to explain why he didn't know exactly when his time off would start (due to the nature of delivery).

I'm ambivalent about finding out anything more. Though I do google a little. Still ambivalent, I guess.