I think I might go with BIL as the next step. First, my husband genuinely trusts and likes him as a person. And BIL takes his ministerial job very seriously. It is more important to him than his teaching job, though the bulk of his income comes from teaching. So if you tell BIL you are telling him something in his capacity as a minister, it's exactly like talking to a T or pdoc. He will only act or tell someone if he thinks my life or someone else's is in urgent jeopardy. So he is a good person to give advice.

H & BIL have known each other since my sister started dating him, over 14 years ago. And IDK, BIL has a huge family, family members & extended family all over this area, he and my sister tend to even get off traffic tickets every time for speeding with warnings only due to their name & mutual people the police officer stopping them might know. It's beyond crazy. It would surprise me if he doesn't have an aunt or cousin or some family member who in not in the medical profession and likely still lives around here (BIL's family did not seem to scatter far).