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Originally Posted by healingme4me
Be gentle with yourself, Sisabel. Remembering and feeling past hurts is sometimes necessary. There are no "needs to" and "must do" where emotions are concerned.
I would think that being cautious and guarded is not necessarily out of line after a decade of quasi estrangement(?). Knowing how you feel you can in turn be mindful of not letting it ooze out of you during these days where they are staying with you.
I think it's great that with a new baby the need for family has been reprioritized. What about the other grandmother, is she in the picture?
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The other grandmother is in the picture and is more involved since she lives in the same town. She usually makes the plans and will get upset if everybody doesn’t stay at her house for the holidays. I am expecting my house might be after Christmas every year, not on Christmas Day. Same with other holidays. This is another reason I have felt discouraged. She will throws fits and change everybody’s plans at the last minute.
Mindfulness for sure! The last thing I want is to build up my resentful feelings. It’s not worth it. That’s why I just don’t feel up to all of this. I just want to relax at the holidays. I’m tired from my job and money is a bit tight but hubby and I always have fun - we don’t even worry about exchanging gifts most of the time. We just appreciate and enjoy relaxing.