Well holidays could be overwhelming to say the least. it’s 6am and I am up because I always host thanksgiving and there is ton of cooking to be done and I worked yesterday. I love it but couple of years I went out of town for thanksgiving and it was a blast. Ha. No hosting.

Yeah I sometimes feel like as holidays approaching I want to go away lol less hassle.

But then again what else there is. We are a small family. My grandparents were holocaust survivors and they lost all their siblings (7), nieces, nephews etc their parents- my great grandparents etc and everyone else in extended family, over 100 people.

So because of that we are a rather small family compare to most. That’s why we don’t really hold grudges or sweat small stuff with each other because that’s all we have. And my mom has cancer now. And my husband lost his parents young. And my daughter widowed young. So got to hold on to whatever family one has. There is not much else in life but family that has true meaning imho.

Go see your dads choir performance. Now I understand not wanting to hang out with families around holidays if they are hostile. No need to tolerate hostility. But wanting to hang out with fiancée instead ....You can hang out with your fiancée other days. You already spend all free time with him. Plus is he not accompanying you to these events? he might actually enjoy your family events and that men choir as he is new to the family.

Just my opinion of course