Hey....

I will admit to paying for Background searches on T and then getting the address and driving by. Of course, I WOULD NEVER have done anything, but I just wanted to feel connected with T was out of town.

I never told T. I would be afraid that T would think I am stalking. I think we all connect, but you have to also make sure you don't scare them away. It's a fine line.
I have read stories of T's/pdoc referring clients out if they get scared of stalking, even if that is not what you are doing.

We all have very strong transferance and T/p-docs should be aware about that.....but

How do you think T would respond if you told him about what you found out?