Hello KD: Since this is your first post here on PC... welcome to PsychCentral. One additional forum, here on PC, you may want to check out would be survivors of abuse forum. Here's a link:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/survivors-of-abuse/

You may also want to introduce yourself over on the new members introductions forum:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/new-...introductions/

And then here are links to 5 articles, from PsychCentral's archives, that offer suggestions for how to stop obsessing. Also included is an "Ask The Therapist" column where the therapist replies to a letter sent in by a person who was obsessed with a celebrity & finally an article on dealing with the fear of relapse:

7 Ways to Stop Obsessing

9 Ways to Stop Obsessing

Some Ideas to Help Stop Obsessing

https://psychcentral.com/blog/9-ways...tuck-thoughts/

https://pro.psychcentral.com/recover...sive-thoughts/

https://psychcentral.com/ask-the-the...ity-obsession/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/the-fe...gnitive-tools/

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.